Give 90%, Don’t Give 100%! (What??)

Overexertion is a huge problem with Americans (and us Canadians too!). But whether it’s with exercise, work, family, our personal projects and goals…We often do TOO MUCH too fast. We pay the price, when we give all 100%!

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First off, YES, I’ll admit that’s a little bit of “clickbait” when I said that you shouldn’t “give 100%.” But I was just scrolling through Facebook and saw a motivational quote, as ya do…

With a twist:

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Some people might just think of that as a funny little joke and move on, but for me, it really made me think! Like, of course you wouldn’t “give 100%” of your blood when donating, because then you’d have none for yourself.

But doesn’t that logic also apply to other situations where you “give 100%”? If you give it all to work, family, friends, volunteering (go you!), and other obligations, then you run out of energy for yourself! You may remember a blog I wrote about a year ago called About β€œSpoon Theory,” and Conserving Your ENERGY! More people probably know about spoon theory now than they did a year ago, so I’ll define it quickly: spoon theory is the idea that people have a limited amount of things they can do in one day, called “spoons.” So, let’s say you have 5 spoons…You use one to get ready and drive yourself to work, use one to make that really annoying phone call to an insurance company, one to go grocery shopping after work, one to pick up the kids and bring them home, one to cook dinner and…Oh no! Now, you’ve done one thing “too many” because you don’t have the energy to spend quality time with your kids! They’re running around being their peppy, fun selves, but right now you want to curl up into a ball instead of being able to enjoy it.

See where I’m going with this? Don’t give 100%!

Of course, there’s no literal amount of “spoons” that a person has, and also, the amount of “spoons” or energy-consuming activities you can do each day VARIES from day to day. Some days you can do it all, and some are just so stressful that your utensil drawer is apparently empty. πŸ˜‰

But still, you can’t give 100%…you have to give 90%. Because chances are, the time you get to spend with your loved ones, or the equally cherished time you get to have relaxing and just being YOU, will happen at the END of the day.

And “at the end of the day,” that’s what’s most important, isn’t it?

It’s very easy to “accidentally” give 100%, the same way it’s easy to spend all your money if you don’t BUDGET.

So what I propose is that everyone should have a planner/diary for EMOTIONAL ENERGY budgeting. Which I think means, write down everything you have to do this week…Then make sure you cross out a couple of things.

Use a big red pen, or a glittery gel one…Whichever feels more cathartic. πŸ˜‰

What do you think? Are you good at keeping a little bit of time and energy for yourself? Or are you running on empty? Let me know in the comments, I’m curious! And I also have a few great opportunities to talk to you about, if you want to make a positive change in your life, health and fitness that will leave you more time to focus on what matters most…